When you have a child with a disability you get used to people watching you and asking questions really fast; or you should because it's inevitable. Most people are very kind and what to ask how old she is because let's face it, Claire is a bit or a shrimp. It is usually a really good thing and we get to share about Claire and make new friends nearly every day but then there are the bad days. People in Wal-Mart asking me "is she retarded?" Seriously guys! It happens more then you would think.
One of the reasons I decided to do the 31 for 21 Blog is for this. A friend of mine asked me "I know it's politically incorrect to say retarded, so do they use the word Down Syndrome now?" Forget politically correct, calling someone retarded is crewel and Down Syndrome is completely different. Yes, it's a medical diagnosis but somebody tell me the last time you heard the R word, was it in context? I'm going to bet it wasn't.
With compassion and understanding I know it's not to slam my daughter every time someone throw out that words but please, please think about it. It's a bad habit for most of us, that's all. Lets brake it! Your parents said it, now you say it. Lets stop it for our children. They will say what they hear.